12.22.10

Yesterday I came from the hospital to get a thorough check up on my waning health. Not because I wanted to, but my best friend and girlfriend were on my back about it. And yeah, they had to firmly push me to go. So I went. And yes, I feared for what my doctor would say. Got diagnosed for acute bronchitis, acute laryngitis and ameobiasis. Like one acute condition isn't enough I get all three. (sniff)  When I was on my way home, I was surprised at how I was getting treatment from people around me. Particularly the ones I loved. In my previous post, it was written there that...  21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. - Hmm...I remember the conversation I had with Ato about not falling in love with your work. You can love what you do sure, but never fall inlove with your work. And there it goes, simply put that your job will not take care of you. And next to Richie, Ato and Chriez are my family now. Its the circle I feel I am part of. The realm where I can be myself and not worry about being judged or condoned.    Today, she made a conscious effort of coming all the way from Cavite (where she's from) to my place. And mind you, I am from Teacher's Village Quezon City. She brought food for both Anna, me and herself. I refused to eat because I wasn't hungry. Maybe because the meds don't really make me eat consider the tummy tantrums I'm having with  the occasional throw ups. She literally fed me, nursed me and even took me to Red Ribbon after drinking my meds. Got me my fave salad and cake.  I am amazed how much she has grown into our relationship. How much she cares for me. How much secured I feel with her around. She use to be so nonchalant. But now, she guards me like a hawk. She monitors my every move and yes, she has claimed me hers.  Indeed I am happy, ecstatic even at how much attention I get from her. She may say she can go on without seeing me, but she finds ways to make it a point to see each other if not everyday, the least apart we are from each other is a day or two. But not more than that. She calls every so often, specially now that I'm bedridden-sick. I haven not felt so cared for in a long time. Much more "this" kind of caring.  When I think of all these, I am reminded of the fact that things can go bad...but they definitely can change....

To Share This

1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment

3. Don't over do; keep your limits

4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does

5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip

6. Dream more while you are awake

7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..

8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present

11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you

12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.

Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

13. Smile and laugh more

14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

15. Call your family often

16. Each day give something good to others

17. Forgive everyone for everything

18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6

19. Try to make at least three people smile each day

20. What other people think of you is none of your business

21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.

22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.

23. GOD heals everything

24. Do the right things

25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change

26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up

27. The best is yet to come

28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful

29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it 30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.


While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

Randy Pausch He died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind… In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan , and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow. May you be blessed by his insight.

Tagaytay Weekend Part 1

With Abbi - waiting for the rest of the boys

In transit to Tagaytay

Clowning around the lobby

Adjie, myself & Abbi at the lobby

La Familia TTG - lol - at Andoks Tagaytay

Waiting for Take Out

The Boy's room - with overflowing chicha

CHRIEZ: Picture ka ng picture, kumain ka na!

Too little heads, too many food...what to do

half circle..drinking...

There you go Tequilla...straight up

Official photographers - C_c

The Chivas Legend....

Next round....chivas

Good morning neighbors...

@ Rowena's

FREE breakfast...and Barako authentica

Cranky & Hungry

Yan, late na kasing gumising...

controversial bouquet...

Reviewing the menu???

Singit shot ni Paolo

TechTeam Global Training Department

Solb!

Where's the head? Where's the head?

Kiss The Cook 12.15.10

Had dinner with Anna today at Kiss The Cook. It was sumptious, if I may say. But what got me realizing were the things said over dinner and during dessert. I saw another yet, different side of her that normally doesn't come out. Sigh...what I mean is that, it doesn't manifest that often or atleast it doesn't come out like that a lot. I'm talking about the way she sees our relationship. The way she actually talks about it, is pretty much the same way I do, but watching her talk about it. Watching her talk about it with Anna, is a different level. You may think its shallow, or petty. But I still know its a big deal for both her and me. You see, she doesn't open up much. Only to her decade friends and me. A little with her mom sure, and her bro. But aside from them---us, nada.

Fascinated by the way she spoke to Anna about us. The ins and outs of our relationship. How our relationship actually works from our point of view. Mind you, she spoke from "our" point of view and not just from hers. That tells a lot. Atleast ofcourse were on the same page. As I was saying, she explained everything to Anna in her own way. How she chose her words, how see simply laid it down.

"You think, our relationship is perfect? Ofcourse not, whatever my weaknesses are, is her strength. And whatever her weaknesses are, are my strengths. We don't try to be perfect, were opposites. But we balance ourselves with each other. We keep it balanced. You think we never run out of things to talk about when were together, but that's not just it. We may be together at work, but we don't talk--acknowledge each other sure, but not spend time at the office with each other. At the end of the day, we get together, were together and we ask how our day was. How each other spent their day. And each day is always something different. Something new. She tells me everything that goes on with you, at your house. I tell her my thoughts and that's how we communicate. Don't think she doesn't worry about you, cause she does. She worries a lot about you when were off work together. Just be open about your thoughts and share them with us. You should learn to communicate."

Watching her talk about us from that angle is "kilig" moments for me. It means a lot because I know she's taking our relationship to another level. To a serious level. She appreciates me. Exactly the way I am.

She whispers to me how she's gonna miss me since our schedules don't match anymore. And, that, just blew me away.

Men Are Like...Just something witty to share...

MEN are like....

Now days, 80% of women are against marriage, WHY? Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.


1. Men are like . .... Laxatives . ..... They irritate the crap out of you.

2. Men are like. Bananas ....... The older they get, the less firm they are.

3. Men are like ...... Weather . Nothing can be done to change them.

4. Men are like . Blenders You need One, but you're not quite sure why.

5. Men are like ..... Chocolate Bars .... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.

6. Men are like .... Commercials ....... You can't believe a word they say.

7. Men are like Department Stores ..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.

8. Men are like ..... . Government Bonds .... They take soooooooo long to mature.

9. Men are like .... . Mascara . They usually run at the first sign of emotion.

10. Men are like ... Popcorn ..... They satisfy you, but only for a little while.

11. Men are like Snowstorms .... You never know when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.

12. Men are like ........... Lava Lamps .... Fun to look at, but not very bright.

13. Men are like P arking Spots .......... All the good ones are taken, the rest are handicapped.

Tomorrow

Tomorrow. No, not the song by Annie but we mark our first month together. Ü  Its not fast, its not slow. Just well paced I'd say for a month of being together. If I were younger I'd be hopeful of what the other months would bring, but I know better. Still take one day at a time, and sure hope and have little plans here and there from time to time but keep basically simple by just taking one day at a time.

I've given her my pre-month present of our caricature of our first photo ever taken. Kudos to my best girl, Aimee. She took the photo, which was meaningful enough considering that was the night we "officially" came out in the open about our relationship. Us to my friends, and later that night, us to hers.  

Twas also the day, she asked me if I were happy about our admitting of our relationship. Of course I was! Damn straight! We've been keeping it under wraps and toned down for the past three weeks, that coming out of that phase relaxed me. So did it with her as well. 

I can only look back on what the month was. There was the flirting, the affair with our eyes during training and the drinking sessions that led to what it is now. Not that I had to be intoxicated to realize but the booze sure help her spill how she feels about me. About us. Don't forget the pancakes and coffee and my braces. How significant. 

I'm happy. I guess it eminently shows when were together. People notice it, I mean people who don't even know us. Random strangers who look our way, or give us comments like we look fresh together or that we were happy. I'm glad we have this effect on each other. And  yes, I hate to admit it, but I've soften up since we've been together. 

Not another question of why I glow when I'm with you...I guess I like it being with you...

Listening to Tiffany Alvord's THE REASON IS YOU...

w.49 unveiled

What is it that other people see that sometimes baffles me when they say it? I asked Chriez over one of our random conversations. Hmmm...

We were ordering our coffees to fill in my bestfriend's late birthday gift planner when after giving our orders, Aileen the barista says: "That will be for here right? You have beautiful eyes C!" and turns to make our coffee. I was caught off-guard. All I uttered was a thank you and a smile. Then I look over to my side and see Chriez smiling differently at me. I blushed---meaning cheeks turning gray... Then when we went back to U-view, I told her that, that comment surprised me. She said: "You do have beautiful eyes. And I didn't realize that until she mentioned it. And you have this certain glow everytime you're with me." I couldn't say anything when she said that. I smiled and kissed her instead. 

Then there would be instances that people around us, specially our friends, would say that we both look different when were together. It should be a good thing right? I think I do look different, feel different with her around. Even my bestfriend says so. She mentioned being my best with Chriez around. Maybe I'm inlove. Maybe I am.

I can take photos forever. I can and will always capture whatever we have now and during one of our talks over lunch I told her how much I value and protect the bond we have. The relationship we are in. So far, we've managed to be well off in terms of work and personal life. We've managed to keep both at bay without complicating the other part with the other. 

I can never thank her enough for discovering  a lot in me. If I can tell her, I will. But I won't say it unless I know she's ready to say it.

Careful...

Eddie wanted desperately to have sex with this really cute, really hot girl in his office.... but she was dating someone else. One day Eddie got so frustrated that he went to her and said, "I'll give you $100 if you let me have sex with you..." The girl looked at him, then said, "NO." Eddie said, "I'll be real fast. I'll throw the money on the floor, you bend down, and I'll finish by the time you've picked it up." She thought for a moment and said that she would consult with her boyfriend.... so she called him and explained the situation. Her boyfriend says, "Ask him for $200, pick up the money really fast. He won't even be able to get his pants down." She agreed and accepts the proposal. Over half an hour goes by and the boyfriend is still waiting for his girlfriend's call.

Finally, after 45 minutes the boyfriend calls and asks what happened....? Still breathing hard, she managed to reply, "The bastard had all quarters!"

Management lesson: Always consider a business proposition in it's entirety before agreeing to it and getting screwed.

Smitten

The song that plays on my ipod comes on, Nsync’s “Drive Myself Crazy”. I smile at the thought of how my weekend went. Another joyous event to mark a great week ahead.

I ended my Friday shift at 11pm. She was done with her team bonding earlier than that so she waited for me at Coffee Bean along A. Avenue where I hurriedly went to after work. There she was tired from the weeks activities and work schedule. I kissed her head and asked how she was before she could get up and hail a cab to head home. I was excited. First weekend together at her place. Not that I haven’t been to her place. I have been before but not spend an entire weekend there. She hails a cab and we discuss how our week went and dozed off she goes. It wasn’t a long ride home. Woke her up and got it the door and spent a few hours getting steamy before calling it a night.

We wake Saturday afternoon and didn’t make any serious plans. Just head to the grocery and do some ingredient shopping. She wanted to have pork sinigang for dinner and something special for breakfast the following day. So we bought the pork, gabi, mustard and kangkong. It had been ages since I last cooked for my partner. And indeed ages. I didn’t even cook for my 3 year relationship. :-p

I’m glad she loved the dinner. She ate a lot. We had a very simple and romantic dinner, at her home of course. And it didn’t have to be candlelit or anything but it was just perfect. Then there was just chilling in their living room and talking about our relationship in the later part of the weekend. She said, that if management asked whether we were in a relationship, she said she will confirm it. Which means I also had to come clean with my top management colleagues. And yes, definitely. I’m glad she think s that way and I think she’s ready to go public and admit it. (Now that I finished this article, and I’m at work, its actually not a big deal after all) ?

She asked me: “How do you see yourself with me?” It was something I asked myself earlier that day when she was opening the gate to bring in the car. And answering her wasn’t as hard as I thought. I told her: “You’re someone I see myself being with for a very long time. Someone I will definitely take seriously.” She kept quiet for a while and said she wanted to break it of. Not only did it alarm me, but I felt the urge to get up and leave, regardless the time of the night. But I held on, held on the belief that she was overwhelmed with the feeling and she just didn’t know how to respond to all the good things that were happening to her. And I was right. She admitted to it. Later that same night she said, words I will never get over with even if it took us nine years being with each other: “Ok I will say this. I see myself with you. You are someone I will take seriously, its just all of these are overwhelming. Its all new to me after all the years of being single. And you know my pattern right? But with you it doesn’t apply. Ayaw ng tadhana na magkaroon ako ng iba, pero pagdating sa iyo walang hindrance. Tuwing nagkakalakad ako with the others, hindi matuloy talaga. It really doesn’t apply to you.”

I would have done cartwheels all the way back to QC!

Sunday evening was even better. She introduced me to her friends. Her friends that she’s been with the past 10 years or so. There was Det and Jen, Pat and Pam. I wasn’t able to meet May and Mel and I think there was also Belle and a couple more. ? It went well. They said they were happy for us. In addition they had comments that she was happy. It was nice that Pam, Pat’s girlfriend even cleaned their home when they found out she was bringing her girlfriend along. As warm as my friends took us in, they showed us equally the same warmth and blessings as well.

Monday morning we wake to a good breakfast shared with her brother. And decided to start saving. She came out clean with how much she was earning, how much she has right now and discussed saving for the next months that are to come. Had dinner before our 9pm shift and went to work and puckered up our poker faces and rolled with the 8hour grind.